Hey, y’all. Bri Clark, here. Briana Clark, whatever you want to call me, just be nice about it. Welcome to psychicbri.com. Today I’m going to talk to you about fear. Fear is something that has served me well, and when I say that there have been a lot of things that I’ve been afraid of. I have been afraid of death. Last year at this time, I had a surgery. I was in and out of the hospital. For a 90-day span, I spent 30 days in the hospital and they didn’t know what was wrong with me. It was scary. Then, when I finally knew what was wrong with me, they had to figure out how to treat me.
That’s some scary stuff. To face death at 35. I was afraid.
I’ve been scared of losing my Mom. I’ve been scared of being shut out by my family. I’ve been scared of losing my husband. I have been afraid of what my children will turn out to be. I have been afraid of being able to pay the electric bill and the mortgage. I have been afraid of losing my home. I’ve done that twice. Losing vehicles, done that several times. I have been afraid of being a failure, as a parent, as a wife, as a mother, as a daughter, a granddaughter, a sibling, an aunt, a marketer, a business partner.
I’m very, very good at being afraid.
What I’m also very good at is using that fear to fuel what I need to do. I remember being at my truly humblest when we lost our home, in 2008. We had this beautiful home, beautiful. It was amazing. We called it East Park Circle, because that’s the street it was on. It was 4,000 square feet. It had everything we wanted. It was beautiful, modern, but was older so it had been remodeled. It was in the middle of town, it was within walking distance of where I like to exercise, walking around Luther Lake. We really loved that house, and then we couldn’t afford it. We had to let it go.
The next house we lived in was a rental and the leasing company that we were paying was not paying the homeowner and the house went into foreclosure. We lost that house, too. The rental property that we did own went into foreclosure. It was an ARM loan with a crazy ass balloon payment. We lost that, too. I’m very good at losing houses and cars. Which made me afraid to own anything for many, many years.Those of you that knew me when I lived in Idaho, when I first moved there. I had a very minimalist survival attitude. There is nothing wrong with that. That is who I was at that time and I love Bri for who she was then. That is by far not who I am now. But I had to travel that journey to get here.
What ended up happening was I felt like if I didn’t have anything to lose, no one could take it away from me.
Does that make sense? Because it did to me, at the time. I didn’t want to have nice things. I did not aspire for anything. I was so scared of monetary or materialistic success that I very much just wanted to stay basically poor, or minimalist, whatever you want to call it, whatever label you choose.
For many years, we lived very humbly and it was fun. It was good. I think I was the skinniest I ever was, in that time frame. But my husband is an ambitious son of a bitch and I love him for that. He has ambition and drive that inspired me, and so we ended up getting back into a 4,000 square foot house. It was a rental and we ended up moving again. We move a lot. We’re very good at moving too.
Anyways, we kind of got back into the ambition of being entrepreneurs. We’ve always been entrepreneurs, and when you fail at being an entrepreneur at a very early age it does something to you. It can be traumatic, to say the least, and you have to work through that, but this is where fear served me.
I have failed, numerous times. Numerous times! I have failed businesses. I’ve had successful businesses. Talk about success and ambition at the moment I run and operate 5 business between my husband and myself. People ask me how I do it and this is how I answered.There has to be something that had to give, and so the thing about fear is fear and faith do not co-exist.
I have faith in myself. I have faith in my guides. I have faith in the Divine. And even if this businesses fail, I’ll learned something from it. I’m going to do everything I can to keep them from failing, but that is where fear serves me. I’m so scared that I’m going to fail at this, that I’m not going to be able to make money, that I’m not going to be able to help people, that I’m going to let people down. I mean, that’s the biggest fear, really, isn’t it? You let people down, you let yourself down.
But that fear drives me. I take that energy and I go, okay, and I flip it on its script. Let’s say I do fail, what’s the worst case scenario? I walk through that and then I go, wait a minute. Nobody died. I’m still here. I can try again. That’s the thing, is you got to take fear and flip the script and try to make it serve you. Walk through the worst case scenario and face it, and then say, how would I approach the worst case scenario? I’m very good at the worst case scenario.
Here’s where I changed, and I started being successful again. I started visualizing success. I know this seems ridiculous and hooey, new age stuff, but if people like Oprah Winfrey and Jim Carey and Tiger Woods and … there’s just so many people in positions of success and … Tony Robbins … These people visualize what they want. So I started doing that and when I started doing that, things started to happen.
Such as I wanted to move back to Tennessee. I did not know how. I did not know what we would do for work. I didn’t even know where we’d get the money to get here, but I visualized myself living here, being around my family, feeling the tie to the land that I have here, the history, the love, the support. I just started visualizing that and what that looked like, and then I wrote down everything that I needed to make that happen. Then I started seeing myself having that stuff given to me, provided for me, by God, by the universe, whatever you want to say, and I asked for help. You know, I wrote on Facebook, I said, I’m moving to Tennessee, I need someone to take over this lease.
I mean, I hustled. It wasn’t like I wrote it down on a piece of paper, threw some sage on it and burned it, and expect the universe to deliver. I hustled. I got out there, I posted on Craigslist. I sold anything I could sell. I talked to old builders that we used to work for, asked them if they were looking for a trim carpenter. My husband got back into trim carpentry, he’s done very well providing for us in that area … and I just did it, and it worked. I’m home. I’ve been here for two years.
I’ve been through three birthday parties for my nephew. My Mom had cancer. I wasn’t 2,000 miles away when that happened. My Mom and Dad got married. I was here for that. My grandmother is like this globetrotting cougar and I get to see that. I have a set of twin cousins who are amazing and rambunctious as hell, and I get to see that. And I have another cousin in who is a baker and I have a cousin who’s invented a new genre of music called country rap, or hick hop, and I got to see that. There’s just so many other things that I’m able to be here for because I visualized it. I put it out there, I let fear work for me and not against me, and I had faith that this is where I was supposed to be.
So, if you want help flipping the script on fear, please set up an appointment, shoot me an email, shoot me a message on Twitter or Facebook or Instagram. Let’s talk. I would love to help you.
Y’all have an absolutely fabulous day, and remember, fear and faith can’t co-exist.
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